Summary
Christopher is recording from Buenos Aires, on a world tour of sorts, and he’s diving into a juicy topic: what sex, sexuality, gender and sexual energy really are. He hasn’t had sex in over 10 days, but that hasn’t stopped him from reflecting on the difference between being horny and being connected to sexual energy. This episode is packed with insight, humor, and permission to stop trying to fit yourself into neat little boxes.
If you’ve ever questioned your type, your libido, your limits, or your relationship status, this one’s got something for you.
Key Takeaways
- Sex, Gender, Sexuality, Sexual Energy
These aren’t the same thing. Sex is what you’re assigned at birth. Gender is how you express yourself. Sexuality is who you’re drawn to and who you reject. Sexual energy is the juicy, orgasmic, sensory fuel you can have with people, food, nature, and yourself. - Your type might be your trauma
Keep choosing the same emotionally unavailable dude with great arms and a sad backstory? Might be worth questioning. What if you’re stuck in a pattern because of your judgments, not your preferences? - Loosen your labels
If your sexuality comes with a list of people and situations you’re not willing to receive from, you’re already cutting yourself off from pleasure. The more rigid your definition, the less room you have to play. - Mr Potato Head Energy
What if your sexual identity could shift and change depending on what felt good that day? You’re allowed to remix yourself. - Watch how people touch things
If someone is sensual with a wine glass, odds are they know how to be sensual with a body. Look for people who explore the world with their hands. - The kink scene is full of kindness
Forget what the media told you. People in kink spaces often have better communication, more respect for consent, and way less judgment than your average vanilla couple. - Worried about opening your relationship?
That fear you’re feeling might actually be excitement. Talk about what works. Be honest. And if you’re not a fit, better to find out now than after years of silent resentment and birthday-only sex. - Yes, virgins can still get it
You don’t need to have had sex to understand turn on, pleasure, kink or orgasmic energy. Start small. Go slow. Lube is your friend. - Mangoes are like vaginas
Eating a mango in the shower is a full sensory experience, messy and satisfying. If you’re not enjoying life that much, what’s the point?
