Summary on Sexualities:
Gay, straight, bi… or maybe androsexual, demisexual, sapiosexual, or a side? In this jam-packed episode, Christopher takes us on a joyful, judgment-free ride through the wide and wild world of sexuality. If you’ve ever felt like the old labels didn’t quite fit, or you’re just curious what the hell pansexuality vs. polysexuality actually means, this episode is a full buffet of clarity, sass, and permission to explore.
He also dives into listener questions about sexual disconnection, virginity at 38, being married to a bisexual man, and what to do when you enjoy intimacy but not literal sex. Oh, and we get our first sex toy review. It vibrates. It’s German. It’s called the Manta. Enough said.
Key Takeaways when it comes to Sexualities:
- Sexuality is a spectrum, not a sentence. There’s so much more than gay, straight, or bi. You’re allowed to try things, enjoy them, stop enjoying them, and move on. No label has to be forever.
- Labels can create freedom and limitations. They can help you find your people, but they can also put you in a box. Pick the ones that expand your life, not shrink it.
- You’re not broken if sex feels scary, painful, or inaccessible. Whether it’s trauma, shame, or conditioning, your body’s response makes sense, and it can shift when you’re ready.
- Sex isn’t just about penetration. You might be a “side”, someone who loves touch, play, and connection, but skips the genital copulation. That’s a valid and joyful way to have sex.
- Being married doesn’t mean you stop being a sexual being. Whether your partner is bi, gay, or just not that into sex, communication and curiosity can lead to something that works for both of you.
- Sexual exploration isn’t about getting it “right.” It’s about staying curious, asking questions, and choosing what feels fun, even if it only lasts a weekend.
- Toy of the week: the Manta by Fun Factory. It’s flexible, versatile, and works for penises, vulvas, nipples, and more. Christopher gives it a solid thumbs up, especially for adding new sensations to solo or partnered play.
