Summary:
In this juicy kickoff episode, Christopher Hughes cracks open the most taboo topic of all: sex. From early childhood curiosity (and front-yard tent experiments) to coming out on national television at 15, he takes us through a raw, funny, and deeply personal look at his own sexual history. But this isn’t just a tell-all. It’s an open invitation to strip away shame and judgment and start talking about sex like we would lunch. Or, as he cheekily says, who we had for lunch.
Christopher doesn’t claim to be a sexpert or therapist. He’s just wildly curious, deeply unashamed, and passionately committed to creating a space where everyone, regardless of identity, preference, or past, can find freedom with sex, their body, and themselves. He also answers a few audience questions, tackling body shame, porn, and intimacy with zero judgment and loads of compassion.
Key Takeaways:
- Sex isn’t wrong. Shame is. Most of our weirdness around sex comes from judgment we picked up, not something inherently wrong with us.
- Your body is not a problem. If you’re shy about your genitals or feel “not sexy enough,” start noticing what parts of your body you do enjoy and let that grow.
- Judgment doesn’t equal turn-on. Many people unknowingly get turned on by judgment, especially from porn, because it’s all we’ve known. But it is possible to retrain your body for sex without it.
- Permission granted. Gay, straight, asexual, slutty, prudish, kinky, or not interested at all. Christopher gives a big yes to whatever your sexual reality is, as long as it works for you.
- Sex is personal, not performative. Looking for external validation (hot partner, porn-perfect body) usually leads to disappointment. Being turned on by you is where the good stuff lives.
- Real intimacy can feel weird at first. Many of us are more comfortable with the tension of judgment than the softness of actual connection. But there’s so much more available when you go beyond that.
